When most people talk about boosting productivity, they mention coffee, exercise, or meditation. But according to a fascinating new ZipHealth study, there might be another underrated way to supercharge your day — morning sex. The survey of 1,000 full-time American workers found that intimacy before work was linked with better focus, higher motivation, and even career advancement. But here’s the kicker: Gen X and baby boomers — people in midlife — were the most likely group to

We’ve been sold a lie about what it means to be a “strong man.” It’s not about power or performance—it’s about presence, empathy, and emotional depth.   If you’re a man in midlife, chances are you’ve mastered a lot of things: your career, your responsibilities, maybe even your golf swing. There’s one skill most men were never taught—how to communicate emotionally. When it comes to love, sex, and connection, that’s the game-changer. No matter how fit, smart, or successful you

Let’s be honest — few phrases bring up more guilt and confusion than this one. You love your partner. You share a life, memories, maybe a home, maybe kids. But the spark? The butterflies? The heat that once made you count the hours until you’d see them again? Gone. And you hate that it’s gone. Because you’re not a cheater. You’re a good person who values commitment. Lately, you’ve been feeling things — noticing others, daydreaming, wondering if you’ll ever feel that pull agai

Dating in midlife comes with its unique set of challenges and opportunities. If you're navigating the complex landscape of relationships after 50, you're not alone. Believe it or not, I love online dating apps! Yes, you heard that right—I'm probably the only person you know who's this enthusiastic about them. Why? Because they offer a chance to streamline your quest for companionship, romance, or whatever form of connection you're seeking in this chapter of your life. Not to

Sex after divorce The joys of sex without worrying about getting pregnant is a welcome consequence of menopause. No more birth control pills or diaphragm or even periods to get in the way. When you're in a committed relationship, this can be the beginning of a new exciting era in your sex life. For those in the dating world, however, there's still a need for an abundance of caution. I recently heard several stories of individuals who have contracted herpes after re-entering

In today’s dating world, where swiping left or right could determine our romantic fate, diving into the dating scene can feel more daunting than ever, especially for those of us in the midlife. Whether you're freshly single or a seasoned solo flyer, the journey toward finding a companion can sometimes feel like navigating a labyrinth. Ever wonder why? Well, you might be stumbling into a few common pitfalls without even realizing it. Bad luck in the dating scene isn’t just a

Your version of a monogamous relationship is veiled in layers of expectations and past experiences. Most couples don't explicitly state the rules upfront. What does monogamy mean to you? It’s an essential question, yet so often, it goes unasked, assuming that a new partner will inherently understand your boundaries and share your views on everything from pornography to flirting. In the dance of a new relationship, the assumption that your partner will have the same boundarie

Ah, the first date. You’re laughing, the conversation is flowing, and there’s that undeniable spark between you two. Then, the question pops into your head: Do I take this further tonight? It’s a decision as old as dating itself—whether or not to have sex on the first date. For some, it’s a hard “no,” while others think, “Why not, if the vibe is right?” I used to be in the “wait it out” camp, thinking intimacy should come later, after a deeper connection was built. As I re-en

In a world where men are often expected to be the unwavering pillars of strength, the art of vulnerability is frequently overlooked. As we delve into the intricate dance of human connection, it becomes evident that male vulnerability is not just attractive—it's downright sexy. Conversations around the patriarchy and the suppression of women’s voices have been loud and long. It's equally important to focus on how men are socialized—the relentless pressure to "man up" and conc

Love, intimacy, and companionship are not bound by age; they evolve, just like us. "Online dating doesn't have to suck." It's a mantra worth repeating, especially when you stumble upon profiles filled with no-gos like "No drama," "Don't swipe if you like this politician," or "I'm not interested in hookups." At first glance, these profiles raise red flags—signs that someone might still be wrestling with past hurts or not ready for what you're seeking: a genuine, meaningful co

Navigating the tides of change that come with midlife can often feel like trying to sail a ship without a compass, especially when it comes to the deeply personal and intimate areas of sex and dating after a divorce. It's a journey that many find themselves embarking on, perhaps unexpectedly, at a later stage in life. This transformation period offers not only the challenge of rediscovering oneself but also the possibility of exploring new dimensions of intimacy and relations

I recently returned from South Africa where I learned of the concept of "Ubuntu"- the ancient African ethos of 'humanity towards others,' which teaches us that 'I am what I am because of who we all are.' The power of community is a pivotal element of our existence. This principle doesn't just apply to our social and familial relationships but extends deeply into the more intimate corners of our lives, especially during the transformative years of midlife. In midlife, when we

In the rippling journey of life, the stretch of midlife often brings with it a sea of changes, not only in our bodies but also in our relationships. For many, the thought of dating and exploring intimacy after the age of 50 can be both exhilarating and intimidating. Apps have revolutionized the way we connect, offering a vast ocean of possibilities, but they can also feel like navigating through a storm without a compass. Moreover, if our online persona sails on waves of nega

In today's world, conversations around gender, sex, and sexual expression are evolving at a rapid pace. Yet, amidst this evolution, many of us find ourselves tangled in a web of confusion, misconceptions, and often, discomfort. The truth is, to navigate these conversations with grace and understanding, we must first peel away the layers of social constructs that have defined and confined our understanding for generations. At the very core of our societal interactions lies the

Have you ever paused to consider how our perceptions shape our attitudes toward sex, especially as we navigate the shifting sands of middle age? It's a period ripe with transformational changes, ranging from menopause to navigating intimacy in long-term relationships. Amidst these shifts, there's a tapestry of sexual desires and practices that often go unspoken or misunderstood due to societal norms and personal preconceptions. My journey began in a place not too dissimilar t

In our quest for lasting love and fulfilling relationships, there's an irony that's hard to miss. While we painstakingly negotiate our lives' milestones—from wedding bells to the first home, and the decision to have or not have children—we often skirt around the most significant aspect: communication. It's the bedrock of any relationship, yet the art of articulating our needs, desires, and boundaries tends to be overlooked. This notion struck me during a recent lunch with my