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Let’s be honest — “not in the mood” has become the most overused phrase in midlife bedrooms. And it’s not because anyone’s broken, lazy, or uninterested in sex. It’s because the rules of desire change, and nobody gave us the updated playbook. Desire in your 40s, 50s, and beyond doesn’t just arrive on command. It needs time, curiosity, and safety — not pressure, performance, or “just do it.” On the bright side, you can absolutely get your groove back. You just need to start sm

When most people talk about boosting productivity, they mention coffee, exercise, or meditation. But according to a fascinating new ZipHealth study, there might be another underrated way to supercharge your day — morning sex. The survey of 1,000 full-time American workers found that intimacy before work was linked with better focus, higher motivation, and even career advancement. But here’s the kicker: Gen X and baby boomers — people in midlife — were the most likely group to

When people talk about getting older, they usually talk about what we lose—collagen, hormones, energy, hair. The one thing that gets better with age is your potential for great sex. You’ve got experience, emotional intelligence, and (hopefully) a little more time on your hands. What you might not have is the same old body—or the same ideas about what sex should be. And that’s exactly where the fun begins. Redefine What “Great Sex” Means Great sex in your 50s (and beyond) isn’

We’ve been sold a lie about what it means to be a “strong man.” It’s not about power or performance—it’s about presence, empathy, and emotional depth.   If you’re a man in midlife, chances are you’ve mastered a lot of things: your career, your responsibilities, maybe even your golf swing. There’s one skill most men were never taught—how to communicate emotionally. When it comes to love, sex, and connection, that’s the game-changer. No matter how fit, smart, or successful you

Let’s be honest — few phrases bring up more guilt and confusion than this one. You love your partner. You share a life, memories, maybe a home, maybe kids. But the spark? The butterflies? The heat that once made you count the hours until you’d see them again? Gone. And you hate that it’s gone. Because you’re not a cheater. You’re a good person who values commitment. Lately, you’ve been feeling things — noticing others, daydreaming, wondering if you’ll ever feel that pull agai

Wish you could keep the passion going just a little bit longer? Sexual stamina isn’t just about “lasting longer” — it’s about maximizing pleasure, boosting confidence, and staying in control of your body. The good news? You can train to improve your sexual performance the same way you train for strength or endurance at the gym.   Let’s explore proven strategies to help you last longer, stay connected, and enjoy sex more than ever. If you’ve ever asked yourself how to last lon

Let’s be real — butt stuff or anal sex is one of the most common fantasies guys have. Plenty of men want to try it, some women are curious, but when it comes time to actually do it? That’s when things get complicated.   For many women, the thought of anal play comes with a wave of anxiety:   Will this hurt? Will I like it? What if something embarrassing happens?   All normal questions. Butt play is intimate, vulnerable, and yes — it can get a little messy. But here’s the good

You know what kills the mood faster than socks in bed? Asking, “ So… what do you want me to do ?” 😬 Every woman’s body is different, and what worked with your last partner might be a total miss with your current one. That’s not a bad thing — it’s the fun part. Sex should feel like exploration, not guesswork. Asking her to stop and explain what she wants? That yanks her right out of the moment and into her head — exactly where you don’t want her. If you really want to please

Does penis size really matter? Penis size might be the most searched question in the history of Google — right up there with “how to last longer in bed” and “why is my cat staring at me?” Men worry about it, women gossip about it, porn blows it out of proportion (literally), and locker rooms? Well, those comparisons are about as reliable as a politician’s promise. Let’s finally separate fact from fiction and answer the big question: does size actually matter? The Truth About

Dating in midlife comes with its unique set of challenges and opportunities. If you're navigating the complex landscape of relationships after 50, you're not alone. Believe it or not, I love online dating apps! Yes, you heard that right—I'm probably the only person you know who's this enthusiastic about them. Why? Because they offer a chance to streamline your quest for companionship, romance, or whatever form of connection you're seeking in this chapter of your life. Not to

Sex after divorce The joys of sex without worrying about getting pregnant is a welcome consequence of menopause. No more birth control pills or diaphragm or even periods to get in the way. When you're in a committed relationship, this can be the beginning of a new exciting era in your sex life. For those in the dating world, however, there's still a need for an abundance of caution. I recently heard several stories of individuals who have contracted herpes after re-entering

Orgasms, often the climax of sexual pleasure, have puzzled and intrigued humans for centuries. What really happens in our bodies during an orgasm? For both men and women, this peak of pleasure involves a complex ballet of hormonal, neurological, and physiological processes . It's not just about the momentary bliss, but the cascade of effects it has on our health and relationships, especially during midlife when our bodies start to write a new narrative. During an orgasm, our

Menopause can herald a period of physical, emotional, and sexual challenges. Instead of a time of loss, menopause can be a time of rediscovery and reconnection with oneself and one’s partner. Let's unravel the layers of how menopause affects your sex life, offering insights and solutions to enhance your journey. Menopause is characterized by changes in menstrual patterns, symptoms, and hormonal levels. While estrogen levels play a game of hopscotch, particularly in the perime

Just as women experience menopause, men undergo a less discussed but significant change: andropause. This phase marks a gradual decline in testosterone levels, potentially reshaping one's sexual health landscape. Unlike the sudden changes that can accompany menopause, andropause creeps in, subtly altering the fabric of men’s vitality, mood, and, crucially, sexual function. Recognizing this shift is the first step toward addressing the sexual health challenges it can introduce

In today’s dating world, where swiping left or right could determine our romantic fate, diving into the dating scene can feel more daunting than ever, especially for those of us in the midlife. Whether you're freshly single or a seasoned solo flyer, the journey toward finding a companion can sometimes feel like navigating a labyrinth. Ever wonder why? Well, you might be stumbling into a few common pitfalls without even realizing it. Bad luck in the dating scene isn’t just a

Your version of a monogamous relationship is veiled in layers of expectations and past experiences. Most couples don't explicitly state the rules upfront. What does monogamy mean to you? It’s an essential question, yet so often, it goes unasked, assuming that a new partner will inherently understand your boundaries and share your views on everything from pornography to flirting. In the dance of a new relationship, the assumption that your partner will have the same boundarie

In a world where the daily grind often leaves us drained, the intimacy that once burned bright in our relationships can slowly dim, leaving many couples grappling with the question of how to reinvigorate their connection. Yes, life gets in the way—kids, work, household duties, and family commitments all vie for our attention, often pushing our romantic lives to the back burner. I recently encountered a woman who lamented that she and her husband were simply too tired to even

It took me 60 years to find my true calling. I hesitate to call it a “passion,” as that might diminish my earlier career as a stay-at-home mom—a role I’m proud to have embraced. The journey to finding myself felt like an endless quest for a destination, one that often seemed just out of reach. Each time I thought I had settled into a comfortable place in the world, that comfort quickly turned into discomfort. Over 32 years ago, I left a short career in technology to raise my

Mismatched libido is the number one reason couples seek out help from sex therapists. This common challenge can cause emotional disconnect and great frustration in relationships. Many couples struggle in silence, unsure how to bridge the gap. Whether it's menopause, health issues, or other stressors, disruptions to your sex life can make a once harmonious relationship feel out of sync. Today, there are many avenues a couple can go to for help. Sex Therapists are licensed pro