How to Have Better Sex After 50

When people talk about getting older, they usually talk about what we lose—collagen, hormones, energy, hair. The one thing that gets better with age is your potential for great sex. You’ve got experience, emotional intelligence, and (hopefully) a little more time on your hands. What you might not have is the same old body—or the same ideas about what sex should be. And that’s exactly where the fun begins.

Redefine What “Great Sex” Means

Great sex in your 50s (and beyond) isn’t about acrobatics or performance—it’s about connection, curiosity, and pleasure. Drop the goal of orgasm as the finish line. Instead, think of pleasure as a spectrum: sensual touch, slow kisses, laughter, and intimacy that doesn’t always end in penetration.

💋 Try this: Ask your partner, “What would make tonight feel good for you?”—and really listen.

Learn the New Language of Your Body

Hormonal shifts mean things feel different. For women, lower estrogen affects arousal and lubrication; for men, testosterone changes impact erections and stamina. None of that means sex is over—it just means you need to learn a new dance.

💡 Try this: Think of arousal as a slow build rather than a quick spark. The brain is your biggest sex organ—stimulate it first.

Communicate Like You Mean It

Couples who thrive in bed after 50 are the ones who talk about sex. Honest conversations create safety—and safety is the ultimate aphrodisiac.

💬 Try this: “I’d love to try…” or “I feel most connected when…” opens the door to honest, sexy communication.

🎧 Listen next: Podcast Episode: “How Deep Is Her Vagina—5 Facts That’ll Change How You Do It”

Address the Physical Stuff (No Shame, No Silence)

Pelvic floor changes, pain, dryness, erectile challenges, medications—these are real and manageable. A good doctor (preferably one who understands sexual medicine or menopause/andropause) can help.

💪 Try this: See a pelvic health specialist or urologist who’s trained in sexual function. It’s not about “fixing” you—it’s about optimizing pleasure. Or check out the Expert Guide to Menopause Pleasure at GoodVibes.

Play, Experiment, Explore

The best part of midlife sex? You finally get to let go of all the rules. Exploration isn’t about being wild—it’s about being awake to possibility.

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Mindset Is Everything

Desire doesn’t disappear—it gets buried under stress, shame, or outdated beliefs. The biggest barrier to great sex after 50 isn’t your body—it’s your beliefs about your body.

💡 Try this: Start each day by looking in the mirror and saying one thing you appreciate about your body. Desire begins with self-acceptance.

Better sex after 50 isn’t about defying age—it’s about redefining pleasure. When you bring awareness, communication, and playfulness to the bedroom, your sex life doesn’t just survive midlife—it thrives.

💥 Ready to explore? Take my Masterclass: “Hotter, Wiser, Wilder—Sex Ed for Adults”